Online & In-Person Educational & Workshops Programs

While I find individual work to be an important step in our personal growth, I cherish collective processes even more for the connection and energetic power that can be created in a well facilitated group.

Participants in group work & courses can see themselves as part of an interdependent whole and sense their growth being supported and witnessed by more than just themselves.

On this page, you can find my group offerings, upcoming and past courses and workshops.

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WHAT PARTICIPANTS ARE SAYING…

"It was very much part of the  mycelial learning fabric and becoming(s). So intimate and so holding and care-full. The (reclaimed) apprenticeship feel of it - how we learned by doing from the get go, and how you entrusted and co-responsibilised us to hold the space together/for each other.

I cannot word it. It has unworded me. And re-membered me as us. It has been the most spiritually awakening calling I’ve had so far. " 

Anonymous - Participant in the Collective Resonance course 

"It's my third time participating in one of Tobis workshops and it always amazes me how she's able to teach indigeneity and hold spaces like this so beautifully and with a lot of care and patience.

In this course Tobi invited us to see death through the indigenous lense, to explore the uncomfortable feelings we have towards it and to sit with it.  It was not only an invitation to see death through an indigenous lense - it was also about how we understand and move through life. It was a reality check on living life more intentionally. It taught me to accept death as something certain and real and that it's nothing to be scared of. I'm so grateful for Tobis teachings and highly recommend her workshops around grief and death. It teaches us about humility, repair and a lot about ourselves too. Thank you Tobi, you're a beautiful gift to this world."

Nadine Nzambisa Ngolo - Participant of the Dyeing before Dying workshop 

"This training is full of rich and inspiring indigenous teaching. The space created by Tobi was safe and each session was a true moment of co-regulation/co-expansion. It was very enlightening to learn about the dynamics between our nervous system, emotions, traumas, and the behaviors we transmit to our children.

Tobi proposes a balanced level of theoretical and practical lessons to learn about the way our environment and our own nervous system impacts our education. The training is full of tools to help us navigate the challenges of education and parent-child relationship. Tobi always gives anecdotes, stories and examples and takes the time to hear our stories and struggles. The most beautiful session for me was the one on indigenous practices to create connections, it made me want to explore the practices of my ancestors and reconnect with them.  Thank you Tobi for this amazing training, waiting for the next ones!"

Q.M. - Engineer, Aunty, Aspiring teacher - Participant of the It Takes a Village course

UPCOMING WORKSHOPS & COHORTS

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Ancestral Responsibility: Facing The Colonial Genogram And The Death Of Empire
Ancestral Responsibility: Facing The Colonial Genogram And The Death Of Empire

In this 3-month online process based on weekly meetings, we will trace the colonial genogram, looking honestly at the personal, familial, and systemic lines that tie us to histories of conquest, extraction, and violence.

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Collective Resonance: The Neurobiology Of Grieving Together
Collective Resonance: The Neurobiology Of Grieving Together

GRIEF CIRCLE FACILITATOR TRAINING - FUNDAMENTALS

"Collective Resonance: The Neurobiology of Grieving Together," is an immersive training program that explores the intricate interplay of neuroscience, cultural sensitivity, and practical skills in grief facilitation.

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Dyeing Before Dying: A Return To Indigenous Wisdom on Death
Dyeing Before Dying: A Return To Indigenous Wisdom on Death

In summer 2025, I was in Benin and went to my paternal grandmother’s grave, visiting it for the first time since she died some years ago. Her grave is not just a stone in the ground of a cemetery, but a room within her family’s house, a place where life continues to unfold with death resting beneath us.

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FREE OR DONATION BASED OFFERINGS

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November 1884 The Berlin Conference : When They Cut The Continent Like A Cake
November 1884 The Berlin Conference : When They Cut The Continent Like A Cake

The Berlin Conference was not only a political meeting; it was a performance of power over. The kind of power that fragments, silences and erases. It declared ownership over peoples and lands were never theirs to own. So this space is born out of remembrance and also out of refusal. It is an act of returning to what was taken, of reclaiming AGENCY, RESPECT AND ANCESTRAL SOVEREIGNTY that were denied to us when others decided our borders, our names, our fates. 

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Standing at the Threshold: Between years
Standing at the Threshold: Between years

The end of the Gregorian year is a crossing. A moment between what is closing and what has not yet begun. An in-between space we are often in a hurry to pass through. Many people say, “I can’t wait for this year to en and for the new one to begin.”

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ON-DEMAND COURSES

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Motherhood As Threshold: Grief, Change, And Rebirth
Motherhood As Threshold: Grief, Change, And Rebirth

“You have a perfectly healthy and alive child, why are you sad?”

“Think of mothers who have lost their babies. At least yours is alive.”

“You should simply be grateful. So many women battle infertility.”

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Uncharted Waters: A Somatic Exploration Of Colonial Grief
Uncharted Waters: A Somatic Exploration Of Colonial Grief

Uncharted Waters: A Somatic Exploration of Colonial Grief invites colonized bodies to dive deeply into the embodied currents of loss left by colonization. Rooted in my personal journey, growing up in Benin, a land profoundly shaped by colonial history, and now living in Portugal, the birthplace of this legacy, this workshop offers a collective space to feel, grieve, and create with what remains.

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It takes a village to raise a child, but what if the village is traumatized?

This course is not a new parenting philosophy, nor a way to become a perfect super parent, nor even to add an extra burden to parents, but rather to facilitate our parenting and help us embrace imperfection.

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It Takes A Village…. Part 2 - Advanced Experience
It Takes A Village…. Part 2 - Advanced Experience

Guided by the wisdom of indigenous perspectives, we will explore the family soul, understanding the dynamics that repeat across generations through a lens that honors ancestral knowledge and ways of life. This exploration will be conducted entirely through oral transmission, staying true to traditional methods of sharing knowledge, which emphasize deep listening and connection.

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Collective Resonance In Organizations: Grief-Informed Practices To Address Loss And Changes In The Workplace
Collective Resonance In Organizations: Grief-Informed Practices To Address Loss And Changes In The Workplace

This course is designed for HR professionals seeking to create a more compassionate workplace, ultimately retaining and attracting talent and keeping the organization healthy and human-centered. It is also designed for organizational consultants who want to integrate grief, nervous system, and somatic aspects into their work to address change, team development, and conflict in their client organizations.

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MORE WORDS FROM PARTICIPANTS…

“But Alhamdulillah, through your work I have seen a real change in my relationships, especially to my parents, and I am so happy about it. I am also seeing a huge change in other family relationships, with my siblings, extended family, and my own kids. There is such peace,

Dear Tobi, I am writing this in my deepest gratitude. I am so happy that you offered this course. I remember not really trusting that something would change if I am just working on my side. But Alhamdulillah, through your work I have seen a real change in my relationships, especially to my parents, and I am so happy about it. I am also seeing a huge change in other family relationships, with my siblings, extended family, and my own kids. There is such peace, I never imagined it. I am deeply grateful to you and I hope that you will offer a course format again soon. May your work prosper and may your journey be blessed ✨”

V.W - Mother, Sociologist, Partner, Friend - Participants of the It Takes A Village 1 & 2

“This training really challenges you and slowly transforms your life in ways you don’t expect it. It teaches you how important it is to tend our grief in order to live with it.

I was able to gain some clarity and answers regarding my personal life through this training and the tools that Tobi gave us. I really liked the holistic approach on how to deal + tend grief and that grief is never meant to be dealt with alone - it‘s always a collective effort." 

NNN - Participant of the Collective Resonance Course 

The work opened a horizon for a deeper look into my own history and how it has shaped me as a person. It feels amazing to start and clear up so many things.

Taking the follow-up course to "It Takes a Village" was another great gift for me. I have always wanted to get into soul work. Connecting with my parents, siblings and all the living and non living ancestors brought me to completely new paths in my life. The work opened a horizon for a deeper look into my own history and how it has shaped me as a person. It feels amazing to start and clear up so many things.

Taking this course was definitely one of my best decisions. I think this is something that will last me for the rest of my life. Having less to work on is certainly a great blessing for my children.»

C.D - GERMANY, A dad and husband - Participant of It Takes A Village…II 

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