Science - Politic - Culture- Creativity - Earthcentric vision : An integrative somatic approach to trauma, grief and nervous system restoration
A soft space to expand the nervous system capacity and transcend trauma.
“The Eurocentric paradigm focuses on “healing” trauma and fixing people. In the paradigm I live in, we learn to dance with our cracks, and integrate our fragmented parts.” Tobi Ayé
Trauma is often stigmatized as something bad or dysfunctional; something that we shouldn’t have. But in fact, we should understand trauma as a result of an intelligent and necessary response that saved us. It helped us survive and cope through the situation in that moment.
What we don’t know is that we still carry the after effect, the wound within ourselves, our body. Trauma leaves our body in a state of persistent danger and makes us live in high alertness, stressed and constantly bracing, overly accommodating, dissociated and numb.
Trauma work helps us get in touch with the wisdom of our body. By integrating touch and body work, breath work and space holding, we invoke and build your nervous system’s capacity to respond to situations instead of reacting to them. Nervous system restoration is the art of bringing back softness and pleasure in our body tissues, mind and emotions.
Inclusivity
I work with EVERYONE regardless of their gender, race, ethnicity, and socio-economic background. I do place an emphasis on supporting Global south Bodies, bodies of cultures and systemically Marginalized communities in general to support them understand and integrate ancestral, racial and systemic trauma in general.
Up Coming Educational Offering
COLLECTIVE RESONANCE: THE NEUROBIOLOGY OF GRIEVING TOGETHER
GRIEF CIRCLE FACILITATOR TRAINING - FUNDAMENTALS
Course day & hours: Every 2 weeks , Saturdays & Sundays from 10:00 pm to 14 pm, Berlin time
Course Length: 13 modules spread over 3 months, with a one-month break in August
Number of participants: This training is designed for a small cohort, max 12 people
Course language: English
WHY THIS TRAINING
In today's complex and fast-paced society, the need for understanding and honoring grief has never been more critical. Grief, in its various forms, permeates every aspect of our lives, from personal losses to global crises. Without proper support and understanding, unresolved grief can manifest as emotional distress, physical ailments, and societal unrest.
"Collective Resonance: The Neurobiology of Grieving Together," is an immersive training program that explores the intricate interplay of neuroscience, cultural sensitivity, and practical skills in grief facilitation. In this transformative journey, participants will delve into the essential principles of navigating grief across diverse contexts, including personal loss, ecological challenges, and societal injustices.
Drawing upon the latest insights from neuroscience, participants will gain a deep understanding of the neurobiological processes underlying grief, enabling them to support individuals and communities with empathy, compassion, and scientific rigor. Through experiential exercises, group discussions, participants will learn practical techniques for creating safe and supportive spaces for groups and communities.
But "Collective Resonance" goes beyond theoretical knowledge – it embodies a commitment to cultural sensitivity and inclusivity. Participants will explore diverse perspectives on grief, learn about the transformative power of rituals in the grieving process, and engage with the rich tapestry of human experience.
This training is not just about understanding grief – it's about harnessing the collective wisdom and resilience of communities to navigate life's most profound challenges. By fostering connection, empathy, and understanding, "Collective Resonance" empowers participants to make a meaningful impact in the lives of those they serve, creating a ripple effect of expansion and compassion in our world.
Join us in redefining the landscape of grief facilitation and fostering a culture of collective resilience and support. Together, let us amplify the voices of those who grieve and create spaces where we expand and flourish.
My Offerings
My Approach
1-1 Sessions
In Person / Virtual
Facilitation & Training
In Person / Virtual
Free Monthly Grief Space
About Tobi
Born and raised in Benin, movement and displacement have been an integral part of her life and define her entire identity. Having grown up in the West African sub-region and also lived in North Africa, notably in Tunisia, she has experienced in her flesh the countless ethnic, inter-religious, and social divisions that are deeply rooted in the colonial trauma that the continent has experienced.
Based today in Portugal after having lived in Germany, she is a cultural somatic practitioner, educator and a skilled group facilitator with a deep commitment to working with individuals and communities to repair connections and integrate collective, intergenerational, individual, and systemic trauma. She founded RECONEKT a space to deeply look how systemic trauma has fragmented us as collective body and ways to heal together. She believes that anti-oppression work begins within one's self and includes addressing all oppressed groups and identities as we work towards liberation of all beings.
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